Native memory leak fix + indexing perf regression fix

[rayshrey]

Description

• Fix for native memory leak issue identified during indexing benchmarking (closing ParquetWriter and it's internal classes properly)
• Fixes slow indexing due to addition of same entry multiple time in DocumentWriterPool's ConcurrentQueue
• Added additional jvm arguments and dependencies for better native memory tracking and debugging of Arrow Allocators

Related Issues

Resolves #[Issue number to be closed when this PR is merged]

Check List

• Functionality includes testing.
• API changes companion pull request created, if applicable.
• Public documentation issue/PR created, if applicable.

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